Thursday, September 04, 2008

osmoting perilously close to derangement

How do you tell a really good friend that he isn't performing his father and husband duties nearly well enough without affecting that friendship in the hopes to improve the overall situation of his family?

4 comments:

ghost said...

if hes your friend he'll listen to what you have to say.

if he gets angry with you for it, maybe he is feeling some guilt already.

perhaps your friendship must be sacrificed in order to salvage his family.

mëznor said...

ditto.

i recently told a friend she was making the biggest mistake of her life and she would regret it. not that i think that influenced what she decided, but she did the opposite of what i feared she was going to do... we're still cool.

handmaiden said...

hmmm, that's a toughy.

Perhaps, you could illustrate it in a third person sort of way?

Or post it on your blog in hopes that he'll read it?

Seriously,
On some level of consciousness, people that are messing up, know they are doing it. Pointing it out to them doesn't always get you any where.
I would say appeal to his own love for his family, for instance, I know you love your family, but you seen to be struggling with_________(whatever the problem is)& it's affecting everyone's well being. I know you'd never want your family to suffer. Is there anything I can do to help?

MikeE said...

I would suggest that it's only your opinion that things maybe could be better.

Unless you know that your friend is in peril of losing his wife/family I'd let him and his family work things out for themselves.

Also, what you perceive as a performant husband could be completely different then what others perceive, including that friends own family.