twist and crouch

I have been watching youtube channels that talk about male loneliness, and especially in younger men (of which I am not one). From it, one of the many things I have learned was about dating apps, how women on many dating apps get a match about one out of two positive swipes, while men get a match about one out of 40 positive swipes.

I created a free Bumble account to see how this would play out. I did get a match at about the rate of one out of 40 and met the woman this past Saturday. I did not find her particularly attractive, but we had chatted for many days and I wanted to meet her in person so as to practice the social interaction. 

Subsequently we both agreed we would not pursue a relationship. I then deleted my Bumble account. I found that most of the women I had been attracted to were 6-10 years younger than me and very or moderately pretty. Of the men they would see, I think it would take 1000 swipes for me before any of such women to select me, if even any would do so. I am not too bothered by this; I already managed to have had a marriage, have children, and have seen them more or less flourish. Being divorced and single now isn't great, but it isn't terrible either.